People Fuel – Week 5
“…Since we are all one body in Christ, we belong to each other, and each of us needs all the other.” Romans 12:5 NLT
QUADRANT 1: BE PRESENT
TRUE, DEEP RELATIONSHIPS ARE BUILT ON THE FOUNDATION OF TRUST
QUADRANT 2: CONVEY THE GOOD
AFFIRMATION
ENCOURAGEMENT
RESPECT
HOPE
FORGIVENESS
CELEBRATION
“Then he said to the crowd, “If any of you wants to be my follower, you must turn from your selfish ways, take up your cross daily, and follow me. Luke 9:23
QUADRANT 3: PROVIDE REALITY
WITHOUT QUADRANTS 1 AND 2, QUADRANT 3 DOESN’T HAVE A LEG TO STAND ON
CLARIFICATION
CLARIFICATION: HELPING A PERSON THINK CLEARLY ENOUGH TO SEE AN ANSWER.
So quickly my dude just fires back:
Have you ever wished you HAD more clarity…? This guy does: 10 min later she texts back and says:
“As Jesus started on his way, a man ran up to Him and fell on his knees before him. “Good teacher,” he asked, “what must I do to inherit eternal life?” “Why do you call me good? ” Mark 10:17-18 NIV
“Jesus answered. “No one is good except for God alone” Mark 10:18 NIV
PERSPECTIVE
INSIGHT
INSIGHT: CONVEY A DEEPER UNDERSTANDING
“Jesus answered, “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks the water. I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.” John 4:13-14
FEEDBACK
FEEDBACK ISN’T A BAD THING
“Let a righteous man strike me – that is a kindness; let him rebuke me – that is oil on my head” Psalms 141:5
CONFRONTATION
CONFRONTATION: FACING ANOTHER PERSON WITH A REALITY ALONGSIDE AN APPEAL AND WARNING TO CHANGE
FEEDBACK CAN OFFER AFFIRMATION AND POSITIVITY OR IT CAN BE A CHALLENGE AND BE NEGATIVE
CONFRONTATION IS ALWAYS CORRECTIVE
“Jesus returned to the Mount of Olives, but early the next morning he was back again at the Temple. A crowd soon gathered, and he sat down and taught them. As he was speaking, the teachers of religious law and the Pharisees brought a woman who had been caught in the act of adultery. They put her in front of the crowd. “Teacher,” they said to Jesus, “this woman was caught in the act of adultery. The law of Moses says to stone her. What do you say?”
“…Jesus stooped down and wrote in the dust with his finger. They kept demanding an answer, so he stood up again and said, “All right, but let the one who has never sinned throw the first stone!”
“Then he stooped down again and wrote in the dust. When the accusers heard this they slipped away one by one, beginning with the oldest, until only jesus was left in the middle of the crowd with the woman. Then Jesus stood up again and said to the woman, “where are your accusers? Didn’t even one of them condemn you?” No, Lord,” she said. And Jesus said, “Neither do I. Go and sin no more.” John 8:8-11
“The thief’s purpose is to steal and kill and destroy. My purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life.” John 10:10
“…I am the way , the truth, and the life. No one can come to the Father except through me.” John 14:6